Natural hair journey is sort of a funny process, before going natural you have all of this expectations about what you hope your natural hair will look like. Years of relaxing your hair has left you completely unaware of your real hair texture or how to take care of it. Once you actually go natural you realize your true hair texture and the challenges it might come with, for every texture has it's challenges.
As 4B/4C hair girls, we realized over time that our texture may not be as desired (to some) for they assume it is high maintenance due to it's tighter curls or they find it less appealing visually as compared to looser curls. This naturally has an effect with how some people view healthy natural hair vs unhealthy natural hair. I remember in the past when I would have my hair in it's shrunken state and someone would say, "I don't think you applied enough moisture because it is very course" or "you may not have the texture that will work with going natural". At first these kinds of opinions had a real effect on us but once we learned how to truly take care of our hair, it was easy to embrace our texture because as we mentioned, what you eventually discover is that every texture has it's challenges.
Texture is not the key to healthy natural hair, at the end of the day it comes down to having a healthy regimen with plenty of moisture. This is why we can now easily go from a looser curl to a shrunken state without worrying about whether it is seen as unhealthy. Sometimes the mental struggles relating to natural hair (whatever texture yours may be or your particular issues with your hair) has to be overcome in order to confidently maintain the physical care your hair needs to thrive.
In our book "Guide To Growing Long Natural Hair" we advice you to not get too caught up with the "texture game" for you may miss out on great DIY tricks or products that may be good for your hair but not marketed towards your hair. Once you focus on your own journey and learn how to actually give your hair the care it needs, you will see that texture is just a number and not a hurdle to overcome.